1105. This week, we look at how the pronouns you use can reveal your psychological state — for example, how using "I" versus "we" can signal how you are coping with a breakup or a tragic event. Then, we look at where our alphabet started, from ancient Egyptian hieroglyphs to the Phoenicians and Romans.
1105. This week, we look at how the pronouns you use can reveal your psychological state — for example, how using "I" versus "we" can signal how you are coping with a breakup or a tragic event. Then, we look at where our alphabet started, from ancient Egyptian hieroglyphs to the Phoenicians and Romans.
The psychology of pronouns segment was written by Valerie Fridland, a professor of linguistics at the University of Nevada in Reno and the author of "Like Literally, Dude: Arguing for the Good in Bad English." You can find her at valeriefridland.com.
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Grammar Girl here. I’m Mignon Fogarty, your friendly guide to the English language. Today, we're going to talk about the psychology of pronouns, and then we'll talk about where the alphabet came from.
by Valerie Fridland
Working with several colleagues, psychologist James Pennebaker, author of "The Secret Life of Pronouns," found that how we use pronouns and various other function words provides a surprisingly good assessment of people’s psychological states.
For example, several studies showed that "I"-talk often co-occurs with depression. In examining essays written by college students, Rude, Gortner, and Pennebaker (2004) found that depressed students used more "I"-words (such as "I" and "me") than non-depressed students. And, in a study looking at the poetry of poets who committed suicide compared to non-suicidal poets, Stirman and Pennebaker (2001) also found higher rates of "I"-words, which the researchers suggest shows that these poets were more intensely inward or self-focused.
But using more "I"-words doesn’t always mean you are depressed, especially when you're in social interactions that involve differences in relative status or increased social connectivity. For example, commiserating with a friend will often bring out the "we" and ‘"you" in all of us — for example, “Why don’t we go have dinner, and you can tell me all about it.”
But if you're talking to someone about something you need for a project you'll likely need a shift to "I." In other words, different contexts require different pronouns, but a measurable shift in one’s pronouns from "we" to "I" appears to signal something about a person's emotional state.
Looking at patterns of how people use pronouns in this way can help us understand how people deal with the effect of catastrophic or personally challenging events.
For example, by looking at how people used pronouns differently after the 9/11 attacks in both conversational data and internet chats/posts, researchers discovered that there was a notable decrease in the use of "I" pronouns and a corresponding increase in the use of "we" pronouns, mirroring the sense of belonging and shared emotional experience that the attack inspired (Cohn, Mehl, and Pennebaker 2004). In other words, people became more focused on being part of a larger community and on how this tragic experience connected them to others.
This sense of affiliation and belonging, as reflected in the increase in the first-person plural "we" when dealing with tragic events, seems to correlate with better mental health outcomes. For example, increased use of the pronoun "we" among students coincided with a drop in visits to a university health center for several weeks after a campus tragedy. (i.e., Gortner & Pennebaker 2003).
Marriages also seem to benefit from the "we"-focused discourse. Studies of marital satisfaction show that couples who use more second-person plural pronouns like "we" or "us" report greater satisfaction than couples who use more "I"-words (Sillars et al 1997). This is not surprising if we think of "we" as reflecting a view of ourselves as part of a team rather than as individuals.
But, in a romantic break-up or personally stressful time, a shift to using the more self-focused "I" pronoun appears to help people situate themselves relative to the break-up or stressor. When a destabilizing event occurs — whether in your romantic or professional life — an increase in the use of "I" seems to track with processing the event and shifting your identity (Blackburn, K., Brody, N., & LeFebvre, L. 2014).
Research on private accounts of romantic break ups found that the use of "other" focused pronouns, like the third-person pronouns "she" and "he," increases. And this isn't so surprising. After all, when we break up with someone, the relationship narrative is usually focused on how the individual (how "I") felt, acted, or moved on in post-breakup accounts, at least in private reflections on the break-up. And, rather than signaling that you are moving on, the same study suggested that using more "we" pronouns after a break up might indicate difficulty in adjusting to the end of a relationship.
So the pronouns "I" and "we" are quietly working for us behind the scenes. Shifts in an individual’s pronoun use over time appear to be a good indicator of emotional health, community connectedness, and relationship status. So, in the end, what at first might seem like innocuous little words deserve a little more attention. As Taylor Swift so eloquently shares in her song “ME!,” “You can’t spell ‘awesome’ without ‘me.’” But maybe it would be better to recognize that there is also a "we."
That segment was written by Valerie Fridland, a professor of linguistics at the University of Nevada in Reno and the author of "Like Literally, Dude: Arguing for the Good in Bad English." You can find her at valeriefridland.com.
References
Blackburn, K., Brody, N., & LeFebvre, L. (2014). The I’s, we’s, and she/he’s of breakups: Public and private pronoun usage in relationship dissolution accounts. Journal of Language and Social Psychology, 33(2), 202–213.
Chung, C., & Pennebaker, J. (2007). The Psychological Functions of Function Words. In K. Fiedler (Ed.), Frontiers of social psychology. Social communication. Psychology Press. 343–359.
Pennebaker, J. W. (2011). The secret life of pronouns: What our words say about us. Bloomsbury Press/Bloomsbury Publishing.
Sillars, Alan, Wesley Shellen, Anne McIntosh & Maryann Pomegranate (1997) Relational characteristics of language: Elaboration and differentiation in marital conversations. Western Journal of Communication, 61:4, 403-422.
This next segment is by Jane Sancinito.
by Jane Sancinito
A, B, C, D, E, F, G – makes you want to hum the alphabet song. But there’s no real reason why people should learn these letters in this order. There are plenty of ways we could structure the alphabet; the computer keyboard in front of me provides one alternative. Plenty of other alphabets exist too, as well as languages that don’t use alphabets at all.
So why did we end up with this one – and who’s responsible for it?
As a historian, I love “why” questions. I often like them a lot more than “who” questions, because it’s actually really rare for a single person to change the world. Instead, most of history’s biggest innovations come from teamwork, collaboration and groups figuring out how to make life better, easier and more fun.
The alphabet is a perfect example of this process. Our ABCs, known as the Latin alphabet, are the result of millions of people over thousands of years slowly working together and ultimately agreeing on which letters to use and under what circumstances.
To figure out why they settled on the version we have today, you first need to understand what a letter is and what an alphabet is. Then, you can trace your way back to the very first examples of both.
Letters are symbols, just like emojis or crosswalk signs. Letters are shapes that we – the users – associate with a sound in a particular language.
But many letters change sound completely when they appear in a different language. The English “H,” for example, makes a “ha” sound, but the same symbol “H” is pronounced as “en” in Russian; in the Cyrillic alphabet, “H” makes a “n” sound.
Even when the shape and sound of a letter stay the same within a single language, the letters themselves can have different names. In America, “Z” is called “zee,” while in Canada, the United Kingdom and pretty much every other English-speaking country, it is called “zed.”
All this variety is possible because letters, like languages, evolve and change over time based on what local people do out of habit or trend or just for the fun of it.
An alphabet is a collection of letter-symbols that have been more or less standardized, and which often – though not always – reflect all of the sounds made in a particular language.
Some languages, like Chinese, don’t have alphabets at all, using symbols to represent whole words. Others, like Cherokee, use symbols that represent syllables.
The first alphabet was invented in ancient Egypt, more than 5,000 years ago, and was developed to record religious texts. That’s where its name “hieroglyphs,” or “sacred carvings,” comes from.
Hieroglyphs are beautiful and they do a good job recording prayers, but they are difficult to write quickly, because they are so detailed and often take the form of animals, people or day-to-day objects. Over time, people developed simplified forms of each glyph so they could take notes and write informally.
While hieroglyphs were mostly used by priests and elites, common people, including travelers and traders from other places, learned informal writing. These visitors realized the Egyptians had developed something useful – a way to record sales or send letters that would be clear to those who could read it but mysterious to everyone else. Many people never learned to read at all, because they did not need to or because they were denied access to education.
The most important traders in this period were from Phoenicia – known today as Syria, Lebanon and Israel – and they spread the alphabet to the towns and villages that surrounded the Mediterranean Sea.
The Phoenicians established alphabetical order to make it easier to learn and share with others. But the Phoenicians and Egyptians used only consonants; eventually, as people began to write more and more, and more words needed to be created to describe different things, the Greeks adopted vowels.
The Greek alphabet looks a lot like ours, but our letters took their final form in Italy. First the Etruscan people, and then the Romans, adapted Greek letters to fit their language. The Romans spread their language, Latin, and its alphabet all over modern Europe, the Near East and North Africa. The earliest example of the Latin alphabet in use is called the duenos inscription and comes from the sixth century BCE, 2,500 years ago.
Even then, the alphabet was still incomplete, because Latin didn’t have all the sounds that are common today. The most obvious is the letter “J”; even though the first month of the Roman calendar was January, it was written with an “I,” and pronounced “ianuarius.” The “J” came into use during the Renaissance – during the 1500s in Europe – two or three centuries after the “W” was added, during the Middle Ages.
And there’s no reason to think the alphabet might not change again. English, especially, has a habit of borrowing words from other languages, like karaoke from Japanese, cookie from Dutch and avatar from Sanskrit. Maybe, because of this borrowing, we might eventually need to add new symbols to our alphabet. In short, as the world grows more connected, the alphabet may have to adapt. It won’t be the first time.
That segment was by Jane Sancinito, an assistant professor of history at UMass Lowell. It originally appeared in The Conversation and appears here through a Creative Commons license.
Finally, I have a familect story:
Okay, so, way back in the early noughts, I was a waitress at this restaurant called Steak and Shake. I ain't seen many out here, but this was a long time ago. And I walked up to a table that was about to go, and I very confidently asked them, "Tabagogox?" And they looked at me like my head had just floated away. And it turned out they wanted a Top-a-Go-Gup instead of a Top-a-Go-Gox. But to this day, almost all my friends call a To-Go-Box a Top-a-Go-Gox because of that one time decades ago when I walked up to somebody and just word-salad-ed at them. So that is my friend-ilect story.
Thanks so much. That one made me laugh! We've all had those kinds of days.
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Grammar Girl is a Quick and Dirty Tips podcast, and we have lots of other shows. Tomorrow's Nutrition Diva show was especially interesting to me because it's about the safety of our drinking water, and you didn't know this, but I was really sick last year for a while, and it turned out that we had bacteria in our water filtering system. Here's a clip from the show:
But at this point, you may well be wondering whether a water filtration system makes sense, so let’s talk about when it might make sense to use a water filter—and what kind.
For most people served by a municipal water supply, filtration isn’t strictly necessary from a safety standpoint. But there are still plenty of reasons someone might choose to filter their water—ranging from peace of mind to concerns about specific contaminants to, quite honestly, taste.
There's actually a lot to know about your water, people. Check out the whole episode tomorrow from the Nutrition Diva.
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